Need to stop pushing

[asitis]

Yes, I am going back to school in clinical mental health counseling.

Again, like I said, I think we are parsing words (i.e., splitting hairs) a bit.

You asked if it just lost a lot of its power and didn't drive our actions is detachment. If you look back at my posts, that is exactly how I defined it. What I didn't do is say that it was a lack of painful emotional response triggered by the S's words or actions. So, again I think we are splitting hairs here and are 99.99...% on the same page.

Years from now, most of these things will trigger little to no painful emotions (some things likely will still), but NDY is not years from now, and he shouldn't have unrealistic expectations that there won't be a good deal of painful emotions triggered by his W, nor be hard on himself for that, especially when he did a great job not letting it drive an unproductive reaction from him. I hope we can agree he did a great job, and while he has more work (don't we all), that his feeling a good deal of frustration and pain is really not a sign of failure at the early stage. No?