We did have a session for S9 lined up through the mediators. Guess what. WW has decided she's not going back. I crafted an email with the wonderful help from wonka to try and see if she will go back. At the moment that's a no but I will try once again.
Find a counselor for him on your own. She doesn't have to participate in the process. Find someone who specializes in family therapy (that doesn't mean the whole family has to participate, just that they have specialized training and experience dealing with people going through family difficulties. Consider someone who has training in play therapy, as while your S is getting old enough to begin to really verbalize his feelings, there are still things he will have difficulty expressing directly through talk therapy that play therapy can help bring out and address. It is the same reason I suggest you get into some father-son tussling play. It really does allow for a connection and safety level to build to a point where they can open up and express themselves. It also has to do with how the body and feelings are very interconnected (hence we use things like yoga for PTSD/abuse victims).
Your mediators may be able to refer you, and if you have a local university with a counseling, ed psych, or social work program look through the faculty roster for their person that teaches this and ask for a referral. They are in the helping business, and usually are very helpful. It is summer, so they may respond a bit slower than you like.
Me: 50 W:43 S6, S3 M: 12 yrs. T: 17 M is bad & Not happy Bomb Mar '14 S 5 Feb '15 D Bomb 13 Apr '15 (but "no hurry") DB Coach May '15 Wants proceed on D Aug '15 Starting 1-on-1 negotiations Sept '15
