Do you see how he is not pursuing and she is?? He is her current drug of choice because ... well .. you are there and availible, no excitement trying to chase you down.
IF she brings up any R talk .... you need to be firm and set some serious boundaires
You will not live in an open M Her A is highly disrespectful to you & the family. No R talks till she is commited to the M, full transparency (you have good intel but need to play this as if you just trust she is still in the A, she must earn your trsut back)
You need to not nice her back into the M, in a way yank that bandaid off ... she might very well lose you both if she doesnt change her ways.
If you do not start stating some boundaries .... sure OM might tire and dump her, but you are not doing anything to avoid a OM2 and a A2 here ... she is wayward and addicted.
LISTEN to Sandi and read her threads till they really sink in .... it feels like the opposite of what you feel you should do ... I get that ... but thats how you ended up HERE.
