The Bird, the Cage, and the open door.

[Sotto]

Hi Cali, I'm glad to read that you and your W are making progress on the homework. It sounds like that was a really useful talk. Honest and both trying to move forward. It sounds as though it may be slow and painful at times, but the direction is good I think. And your W truly appears to be trying to reconnect and make amends.

Thanks for posting on my thread. I draw inspiration and hope from your sitch. Knowing that you have been through the very worst. And for a good while too. And seeing where you are now, it is heartening to read.

It sounds as though you are not at a point where you are 'all in.' You are tentatively feeling your way back into a possible M, but not yet sure whether it is the right thing for you. Can I ask how you feel at this point about forgiveness? I know there was a big discussion about it on your thread. Do you think you are holding back because of who your W was? Is it hard to let go of that? I'm asking because I find it hard now to imagine H and me together. Not because he may not want to be - just because I find it hard to imagine it. Do you feel that way, or is it becoming easier?

Feel free not to answer if the questions are too intrusive, and good luck going forward :-)