"It's weird. Even though I'm the one who has distanced myself, it seems to affect me sometimes when STBX makes no effort to pursue. I know I shouldn't care so much. I know it only leads to mindreading. After a few minutes, I'm usually able to reset myself. Still, I need to improve here."

YES - I've noticed that too. It feels like when I go dark, she's perfectly ok with it and prefers that - all mind reading.

I'm not sure what I want in the future with my ww. A lot I need to figure out, but I'm starting to think the only thing I'm sure on is I don't want to be enemies, hate her or resent her - FOR ME, not her. I don't want to have to hold onto all of those unnecessary feelings, but still processing to hopefully get to that point.

Doesn't mean friendship or relationship, but also doesn't mean I would no longer care either. So tough to define, but have all the time in the world to do so.


M-33
W-33
S-11, S-8
M-11, T-14
BD - 12/26, Divorce Filing and admits to affair (her) 4/18
I moved out 5/23