Accounts are linked, kind of makes me wonder if she could be looking at the rest of my messages???? I'm not hiding anything but She shouldn't know everything I'm doing either.
Id be careful. I know I can see websites that are up on my iPad from my phone and vice versa. It could be possible that she can delete stuff if you have the same Apple ID but I'm not a tech expert. You may want to discuss with Apple?
Hi. If you are using I devices on the same Apple ID then yes, the messages will sync. But that would also mean you would see her messages as well. The device would need to be signed in to Apple to do this.
No idea about android. Microsoft may do the same but never used their tec for phones or tablets.
Me:43 Her:42 M:14 S:9 EA started 2014/03 (or there abouts) PA started 2014/05/30 BD:2014/11/05 I left 2015/10/01 I returned 2015/05/02 She left 2015/06/10 OM still on the go.
We have I phones but separate ids, I can't believe she would be able to do this and don't know why she would want to. Like I said, I'm not hiding any thing (other than this site) I did wipe my I pad and remove email from it. That lays around and she could access that.
I have bigger fish to fry I guess. Bottom line is that I know I can live without her, this whole thing isn't the end of the world, life goes on. I have some free legal council through work and I think I'll set up an appointment so I know my options.
I really don't want a divorce but I am hating the way this is now, I think if she wants to be separated than we should be separated, not she has an apt. And a house.
I truely have not really even been thinking much about this lately. At least not worrying about it.
Hi mate. If it's different ids she can't delete or even see your messages remotely. To do that would be extremely complex and would require her to purchase a second iPhone and link it to your account (meaning she would need your password) and even then you would still get an email telling you this just happened. So whatever happened to your messages it wasn't yor w.
Me:43 Her:42 M:14 S:9 EA started 2014/03 (or there abouts) PA started 2014/05/30 BD:2014/11/05 I left 2015/10/01 I returned 2015/05/02 She left 2015/06/10 OM still on the go.
Oh, and I think maybe one big reason I have started feeling this way is because of my therapist, she seems to be pushing me towards getting out. I know that s@cks.
Tell your therapist that you aren't ready and that you want him or her to stop pushing for now. Do it in an I appreciate that you are trying to help but for now, I am prepared to pay the emotional price for my choice. I want to work on (1) how to reduce that price given my choice; (2) things I need to deal with the be a better upnorth; and (3) helping me minimize the impact to my S.
Show them the chapter from DB (the chapter from DR might provoke a defensive reaction from some therapists who have thinner skin about such things) on why Divorce is not the answer. Tell him or her that this is why you are choosing to hang in there for now. Ask them to respect your views and values on this.
If they keep pushing (remember you may be hearing them say get out, when they may be pushing you to deal with something you aren't willing to - a lot of my therapist friends spend a lot of time in therapy dealing with frustrations and advice on clients who turn their pushing for the client to face something they are resisting into hearing the therapist as saying something else), consider a new therapist. We don't want to just get someone who will soothe us and confirm our biases, but that doesn't mean that some therapists are bad fit for a particular person.
Me: 50 W:43 S6, S3 M: 12 yrs. T: 17 M is bad & Not happy Bomb Mar '14 S 5 Feb '15 D Bomb 13 Apr '15 (but "no hurry") DB Coach May '15 Wants proceed on D Aug '15 Starting 1-on-1 negotiations Sept '15
W took S today, I had a bunch of stuff to do after work, W texted me wondering if I would be home, she wAs coming by to pick up some of S things for a garage sale. I said no, I'm not home, it will likely be pretty late.
She immediately texted me back "what are you doing?"
I didn't respond right away, I was talking to someone. A couple minutes went by and she texts "are you seeing someone?"
I replied "are you serious?" To which she replied "you just seem so distant"
I asked " should I be sitting at home waiting for you to come home?" "Life goes on wether your here or not"
She apologized, said she was tired.
I guess detatching works, not sure if I handled it right or not but I feel alright about it.
W took S today, I had a bunch of stuff to do after work, W texted me wondering if I would be home, she wAs coming by to pick up some of S things for a garage sale. I said no, I'm not home, it will likely be pretty late.
She immediately texted me back "what are you doing?"
I didn't respond right away, I was talking to someone. A couple minutes went by and she texts "are you seeing someone?"
I replied "are you serious?" To which she replied "you just seem so distant"
I asked " should I be sitting at home waiting for you to come home?" "Life goes on wether your here or not"
She apologized, said she was tired.
I guess detatching works, not sure if I handled it right or not but I feel alright about it.
I love how defensive they get. "are YOU seeing someone?" Like they expect you to be just sitting around waiting for them to seem you worthy again. If it were me, I may have been a little more mysterious about it, but I think you handled it pretty well.
I never told her where I was, what I was doing or wether or not I am seeing someone. I don't know if she is still wondering or if she is feeling foolish. She did come out while I was gone. I'm curious to see if I hear from her today. Any opinions about Sunday's anniversary? I'm sure this will be a tough day for her. S and I will be out of town. I think a simple happy anniversary text would be the way to go.
