Id be careful. I know I can see websites that are up on my iPad from my phone and vice versa. It could be possible that she can delete stuff if you have the same Apple ID but I'm not a tech expert. You may want to discuss with Apple?

(Assuming you have i-devices)

At BD - Me: 33 Her: 33; M: 10 T: 15; D: 6 and 3

BD: 3/25/15
S: 4/20/15
D: 11/9/15