I didn't mention my action of doing nothing about inappropriate friend. I was never a control freak but I realise I do want to control that. I know I could get him to avoid anything happening. But I don't know if that will help with W.

I can explain this better if someone wants to offer advice. I would kike to hear opinions on taking action or not. As of yet no A, but is inappropriate, at times.

Also an action I am not proud of is snooping.
If there is something I prefer to know, but this is not how I want to carry on indefinitely

R 25 years
M 14 years
S11 & S13
Working on it alone since Oct 2014
M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years)
Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr.
Next R chat Aug'17
Still together