Need to stop pushing

[NDY]

Thanks Painter

Yes, I know I need to do 'something' to calm the anger but I really don't know what that is apart from dissolving.

I remember reading early on since BD that the WAS has been pondering leaving the M LONG before the LBS gets to hear about it. And that any recovery period (not just R) is about 3 months for every year (or something to that affect).

When I reflect back on the last 5 months, I realise that her resentment and anger run deep. As far as I can tell, this is only reflected on me. I don't know if this is affecting any other part of her life but never have I seen her unable to control herself in such a way. Clearly the issues run deep.

But as cadet once said, get out of the way. Well I'm trying to do just that. I really didn't want us to become the separated couple that can't be in the same room as each other but that's the way it's heading.

And the lovely DB friends on here advise to detach. Ok, that's fine for me but watching S9's life being turned upside down so dramatically at such a young age is tearing me apart. And yes, I don't care what people say but it still hurts like hell. My W and his Mother are not the same person. People often talk about what's right for YOU. And that's sound advice but I really have to priorities HIM.

It's all just a steaming pile of .....

But as there isn't much I can do I just need to be the best dad I can. Do not engage with her anger in front of S9 or any other time for that matter. This isn't me being scared or non confrontational I just realise there isn't any point in trying to talk down someone THIS irrational. And by that I don't mean to persuade her what she's doing is destructive and the wrong thing to do. She's been incapable of having a conversation with me for a while (except when she what cake eating, then she was happy).