Yes, he's definitely a mess. He reminds me of a sibling that wants to make sure he gets the same things that his sibling is getting, i.e., like a child.
As for marking the can...in the time he mentioned it to you, he could have marked it himself.
Gotta shake your head over some of their antics.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
