The Bird, the Cage, and the open door.

[Wonka]

Cali,

Saw this post in BW's thread (I think) and wondered how you are doing in this regard.

Yeah .. its frustrating, it truly is. We can not control the WAS, can not snap them out of it ... in a way they are ahead of us as they have detached long before BD or leaving. The thing that killed me was the changes, I made em and she like you said couldn't see them ... truth is, she seen them but never trusted they were real nor would they stick. Even now .. 2 years after my W is still gun shy over the anger issue, an issue I constantly must work on.

How are you handling the anger issue? What changes have you made in this regard? Trying to keep you on alert and mindful of this potential pitfall of yours.

I am not saying that you can't ever get angry again...just how you present and/or express yourself during those moments.