Tug of War with a Monster/let go the rope Imagine you’re in a tug of war with some huge anxiety (depression etc) monster. You’ve got one end of the rope, and the monster has the other end. In between you, there’s a huge bottomless pit. You’re pulling backward as hard as you can, but the monster keeps on pulling you ever closer to the pit. What’s the best thing to do in that situation? Pulling harder comes naturally, but the harder you pull, the harder the monster pulls. You’re stuck. What do you need to do? Dropping the rope means the monster’s still there, but you’re no longer tied up in a struggle with it. Now you can do something more useful. With another metaphor there are two parties jerking each other towards the pit. The more anxious party ends up being pulled with the others whims towards the pit, letting go the rope stops the randomness. Being pulled behind a fast moving speedboat and having to follow behind until one lets go. Stops the craziness. (Harris 2009)
U note that letting go the rope (as opposed to detaching: letting go of the outcome) doesn't make the other party go away, it just stops them jerking you around. They have more respect for you because you are more independent. You take back your own power. I see that as stronger and so will WW!
Sometimes WW go for rotten fruit because it's fermenting. But then so is vinegar.
Hope that helps.
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Last edited by Vanilla; 06/23/1508:03 PM.
Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
