The other advantage of that last part is that not everything an MLC does is because of their MLC. A lot of couples lose themselves in the tiny little bubble of the M & family. This may even be one of the triggers for the MLC.
I think this happened to both of us. Now its like he wants to be fancy free and a part time father and not much of a husband.
In Codependent No More they say you have to let people do their thing if you try and control it it won't work so every time I feel bad because he didn't show up, or I haven't a clue what he is doing I stop myself and tell myself he has to work through this his way (may not be the right way) and he has to want to come back because if he doesn't it will never work.
so I come here for my encouragement/advice and it seems the last week I have had a hard time I think maybe I am on the brink of a break through in I am realizing it is not mine to ccntrol and fix and every day I read things here that reinforce just that.
I am proud of myself today when he went off on me about "snotty comment" normally I would have continued on to try and hash it out or make him see my point but I just said Ok and that was it. I have learned that trying to reason does not work.
