If I have learned anything .. while your W is at this stage, just watch for this. Pressure. Any form of pressure will effect her greatly, within just a day or two. Pressure from us can send them flying back into the tunnel ... work pressure will make them appear years older within a week.... OP pressure will keep them up at night exhausted at how to fix an issue, how to make sure OP does not leave them ... this would force them to look in the mirror as another R failed and they are the common denominator
Your fortitude is amazing, Cali. And when you write like this, I have to remind myself that you're writing about your W, not mine.
I'm waiting for the pressure to hit... it was pressure about work and finances that put my W in the state that left her vulnerable to being seduced by a woman who has convinced her to walk away. Almost every day she tells me how "things are picking up," but really, they aren't. A few deals here and there, but much more smoke than fire.
In the meantime, she sees me interviewing well, getting job offers, planning - without her knowing the details - my next move so we can have the space we need from each other. I know I've only been in this just under two months, and it feels like a lifetime already. I know you and Heavy, having been slogging through this much longer, are here and continuing to love your spouses by the grace of God.
I will repeat... thank you for the inspiration.
Me: 46 Her: 41 M: 5.5 yrs / S: 20, 18 3/26 W and I meet OW BD: 5/2/2015, she takes off ring W goes to stay with OW 6/26 NC: 9/5 Both moved out: 10/16 I take off my ring and feel... healed: 10/19
