RosaLinda, Thank you for saying that
"But I want you to remember two very important things - you have an equal amount of EXCELLENT traits. And secondly, that you only own your half of what went wrong in your marriage. Okay?

Because I am always hard on myself and I blame only myself but I know that there is 2 in a M. I will try to remember that.

And yes it was hard to do, but once I re-listened to what he was repeating to me, it was sadly obvious.