Throughout this, I have had a hard time not comparing myself to OM. Most of the time I feel like this is the lowest type of person. but other times, I feel like - this guy knows how to get what he wants and W just wants this type of lowlife.
I still protect my W and that is something that will be hard for me to stop. I have been talking to some people about our situation, but have not talked too much about why.
I could have written this ... word for friggin word.
For me I know I am more of a man than OM could ever hope to be .. but yeah there is that seed of .. must be something there for W to have wanted that over me. So it sends us spinning, then I read up on the A's a bit .... the WW 'affairs down' ... in my case my W went after a OM whom she would never been allowed to talk to let alone date ... parents would never approve, he is nothing more than a POS honestly .. getting involved with a married woman, safe, no commitment from him required and once she is divorced well now she wants to believe he would be her next ... soulmate of a husband .. this is not the foundation a good relationship is built on .. lies and deciet
W shared with me as the A is over and we are talking things out that OM never connected emotionally, never filled those needs, they never talked like we do ... I do think the direction you are going will have an impact on your W ... I have always felt this with your sitch but its you who needs to pull that trigger .. one I was never willing to pull ... you have my support .. I know how rough this really is.
