Rick, when my oldest was 19 she bombed out in her first year of University. She did the residence thing and it all went bad real fast. She began to fall so far behind in her studies that she felt completely overwhelmed, never told us the situation and ended up failing almost every course. Last year she returned and did well in almost all her courses but one...and that mark dragged her below the accumulative GPA she had to keep by 1 point. She was suspended from school for a year. Now, she works about 12 hours per week (more, if she can get the hours) at American Eagle and is using this year to re-energize. Next year she's been accepted at a College for one year course in Gemology (don't get me started lol!). Life is so much more complicated for these kids today...I feel sorry for them. Bottom line is that we had to let my daughter find her way and it's still a work in progress. I know how hard this is for you...it hurts like hell, especially when you see your ex as promoting this behaviour. No advice here...just empathy. It ain't easy, my friend.
