Many years ago, kids like that would have been put in the military. Now, don't have a clue. She is going to need tough love to get moving on in her life. From whom, you ask? The person that is letting her do nothing.
Until your ex gets mad and fed up, I don't see any change happening. It is sad to see a young life just wither because someone would rather do the opposite of what you want. Of course, it also isn't saying much about your daughter as far as ambition,work ethic, etc. She is an adult now. What do her friends say?
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Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory