Surviving the rollercoaster by getting off two.

[Mom22]

Hi Karma,

Im doing good all things considered. My baby was born 1.5w early but is doing well except for reflux issues. My DD is doing well too and she's taken the move and her new sister very well. Im very proud of her. Im very happy to be in my own place, I love it here. Though its hard to be on my own with a newborn itwas harder to live with him and his disrespectful and unpredictable behaviour.

My ExH is sometimes very helpful, sometimes a total d***. He has a new gf since 2mo (she was in our house when I was pregnant and after delivery they saw eachother daily whilr i was still living there at his request). He s already introduced her to our DD (I found out through her) though insists it was coincidence. She doesnt get this new person, she barely gets mom and dad are mot together anymore. She does well but this is not goodfor her.
Im scheduled with an American therapist to discuss strategies to keep him from doing harmful stuff to our DD.
He sees the baby a few hours a week (doesnt use most of the options I give him) and I ve decided not to give her to him for 2d a month at 3-4mo. I dont trust him with her (he s always on his phone, also when she cries) and I dont want this other person taking care of her either. if he wants time with her he s going to have to show me he really wants to and its safe.
I agree that one never knows whats in the future. We might het back together some day. He does have his good moments. But it would be very long term as I think it ll take years for him to accept he has problems. If ever.

Im really glad you are moving on so well, your life sounds good. You re very positive, thats good too. Im planning fun stuff too. I have friends over for visits and walk outside with my baby, enjoying the hustle and bustle of a big city again. My sister is coming for a weekend in August and we are planning a holiday abroad later in the year, me my kids and her and her boyfriend. I start working again in 7 weeks. I will be ok. Im just stressed about my exH's lack of inderstanding towards what he is doing to our DD. But well... We ll have to see what happens.

Take care Karma and keep us posted!