Lorelai: My waking life

[Pyrite]

OK - back again. I haven't read your first thread so forgive me if I ask a silly question here - why are you organising the D? I thought it was him that wanted the D? So let him do it.

You use the word hate a lot. I hate hime, he hates me. This is a massively stressful time, for him too I suspect. I doubt that he hates you, and you wouldn't be here if you hated him. I understand how you feel though. I've been there. We all have. 25 (I think it was) told me once that being angry at someone to punish them is like setting yourself on fire to get smoke in their eyes. Enough said?

OW? stranger things have happened and it probably doesn't really matter either way, but I would be surprised if it wasn't this boss woman. At any rate no point asking him or her. the answer will be the same in both cases. "We aren't doing anything wrong." I posted somewhere recently about how WAS's seem to transform and all of a sudden have this Hollywood notion that an A is months of midnight rendezvous in seedy hotels etc. What they are doing is talking to a supportive friend. And from their perspective it is. From ours it is an EA.

In my case this EA of W's escalated before BD and turned into PA within a few weeks after S - she still denies that she has EVER done anything wrong or untoward. She has outright lied to my face without blinking. The mother of my children, my partner of 12 years. Asking the "potential" OW, waste of breath L.

Lets get onto the path towards your bright future L. Can I ask you to see what I have just written to CIndySy. I can't be bothered writing it again back to back and copying and pasting is probably harder than you clicking. It might not be of any help to you - you might have covered this in your first thread, IDK. Tell me where you are on the DB path maybe.