DFE... I was wondering when you would be back. Your H taking the boys on vacation is a good thing. It shows responsibility and the want to have meaningful time with the boys. The kids will always be a bond between you and him. It is important that you nurture that bond. Grass isn't greener on the other side of the fence, it is greener where you water it.
You should only respond to him as is required for the kids (as a general rule). But don't forget to do a little dancing with him. First implement LRT and talk rarely and see where that takes you with him (does he reach out more, or less, etc). Then start altering your interactions one by one to test for desirable results.
However, with all that being said... you will need to always take the high road when arguments start. Do not backslide, thats old brain thinking which he will be probing for.
Me: 32 W: 29 T:8 M: 6 D4 S2 M - 8/2008 W is not happy - 1/2014 W wants D - 9/2014 W moved out - 11/2014 D filed - 1/23/2015 D'ed - 2/25/2015 Gave X the Letter - 11/10/2015
