my wife will openly leave the house dressed up to impress other men. She will leave with only a cursory explanation of when she intends to return (for the kids).
she has said that while we are separated and our marriage is uncertain, she feels the right to seek company elsewhere. she has said that while we are separated and our marriage is uncertain, she feels the right to seek company elsewhere.
Why can't you play that game? I don't mean you have to get out and womanize or anything, but take some lessons from what she's doing. Why play like a victim when she's rubbing it in your face! If she has no more respect for the M, you, her kids, or anything else (and apparently she doesn't), why are you tolerating her behavior as though you have no other choices. Do you think she is just going to suddenly see her poor H and kids sitting home alone and acting pitifully.....and the guilt will change her mind? Trust me, it has very little attraction power, and she has almost zero guilt.
If she leaves you, without notice to get a sitter, then have something exciting going on while she's walking out the door. Who cares! Who notices she's leaving? Not you or the kids, b/c you all are playing, having fun, expecting friends over, etc. No long, sad faces on you!
If she gets home at a decent hour (doubtful) you can be dressed up and leave as soon as she drives up. No explanation....just leave. If she gets home too late, have all the lights out and the doors locked. No porch light or candle burning in the window, for her. You are fast asleep in your bed (as far as she knows, anyway).
No questions the next day. Act upbeat and happy, as if you know something she doesn't know. Mysterious!
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
