Need to stop pushing

[asitis]

Don't take it personally. Unreasonable responses to things you did that they have also done (like taking down pictures or removing rings etc.) are just to be expected. It doesn't mean a lack of progress. In fact, it may be that reality is dawning on her and she doesn't like it. Getting to act the way she wants without any reprecussions means she doesn't have to face the pain of what she is doing to your M. You better believe that she will digest that change in you. Whether or not she deals with it childishly or thoughtfully, she has to deal with it.

Just don't get drawn into the argument (sounds like you didn't) or justifying your actions. Listen with sincerity (look her in the eyes, let her know that you are hearing her, affirm, etc.), but set boundaries if she is crossing a line in her words toward you.

Don't see it as a set back. It may have been a first noticing of a change in you, and you don't know what is going on in her mind during and after the encounter, you only know what she said. I suspect she is hurt. I suspect the vitriol is a sign of at least a touch of fear. Don't read too much into it one way or the other, and wait and see what happens in the next couple weeks. You are moving forward with or without her and didn't get drawn into an argument, and that is great. That is a real positive, her reaction is ambiguous at this point, so the encounter seems to be shading to at least neutral to slightly positive.