I was out to lunch yesterday with my stepmother and learned some new things about my uncle (her baby brother). Several years ago, he went through a D with his XW whom he had been married to for 25 years.
I learned that when things got rough, my uncle wasn't going to MOVE out. Instead, he took the whole lower level of his house (it had a kitchenette, full bathroom, bedrooms) and lived there during the D proceedings. My uncle's view was that it was HIS house and he wasn't going to leave like a whipped boy. Very alpha male.
When uncle knew the day the D would come through, he then proceed to move out EVERY single item of his house with the movers on the day that his XW was at work. There was ABSOLUTELY nothing left of him in the house.
Wow.
I gather that his XW had some sort of EA with some guy. Not sure if it went to PA or not.
My uncle is now happily remarried and moved on with his life. Incidentally, he visited one of his two daughters who lives with his XW at their house and even met the XW's current boyfriend (not the OM). Chatted with him.
