Cindy - have you read DR? If not, you really should!
The 180s are a behavior pattern that are a piece of solution based thinking. I my example earlier, you need to know to try to put out honey before you can see that it worked.
- So you set a goal: catch the fly - Then you think about what behaviors have led to you not catching flies - say: trying vinegar, screaming at the fly, looking intently at the fly with a death stare, etc. - then you think about the opposites of those, the 180s - honey, sugar, singing lullabies, whatever. - then you apply them and check your results. - finally, consistently do the things that get you closer to your goal!
Easy, right? Of course, I simplified a bunch, but I think that's the basics of it.
So all the questions asked of you above are to try to get you to identify the behaviors you have/had that were NOT WORKING. That way, you know what to turn around.
You don't have to change EVERYTHING about yourself; you want to identify and change the RIGHT things.
