CindySy I know I don't have the answers but I have been reflecting on how I have contributed to the mess I'm in.
The night my H drop this mess on me I distinctly remember him yelling "You will listen to me!" "I will be heard!". It makes so much sense. I suck at listening. And guess what, when I think about all the conversations we had about his childhood...he never felt heard.
It breaks my heart because I knew about his pain and I did the same thing to him that his parents did. I am really working on my listening skills. We are going to try and work on our M but I don't know if it will work out. I don't have any expectations BUT I know I have to fix my listening skills to improve myself.
Try to reflect on yourself. Focus on you, I'm just getting this myself, but it's starting to make sense. You have to be the best you can be even if doesn't work with your H.
You don't want to carry any issues you may have into your future.
