I am glad you understand the anger thing. I read about men who got divorced and bulldozed the house, cut everything in half, etc... those are funny fantasies... but I don't entertain them becuase it would make everything so much worse.
Control.
At day care, they asked about D6's age and wanted proof of it. I said I would let her other Mother know about it and left it at that. My D6 was upset and it was all because W sent her to this other camp alone (without her brother) without her knowing another single kid in the camp.
I had to email W and tell her about the age proof thing and left it at that. I could have emailed her a copy of her birth certififcate, but will let her figure it out. I am no longer Ms. Fix It.