Trying to stay focus on me.....this is a challenge

[asitis]

Just to clarify, my analogy wasn't about setting goals. I was trying to describe my take on solution based thinking.

What I didn't mention was that you don't try EVERYTHING all at once...just think about what things might work and see what does. Then keep doing that.

Good point, and it will likely help to understand what approach you have been taking (which likely hasn't been working), as that eliminates one of the possibilities and will likely give you some clues as to which of the alternatives approaches might be most effective to try first. If you have been chasing around using a fly swatter (to stick with your analogy), or more likely chasing around with fly paper trying to get him to stick, then lay out some honey or maple syrup and wait for the fly to come to it rather than sicking the cat or anyone else on the f*ing fly.

Matt, I really am enjoying running with your analogy though, as it conjures all sorts of humorous 180s and other possibilities: piles of sh*t being the most obvious and appealing to my childish sense of humor.