Can it be another round?

[ForeverYoung]

FY, thanks for the insights. I do think and feel that he had the best M with me. He will never have anything like that with somebody else. In spite of some disagreements, we were very suited for each other.

Of course you were well suited for each other, that’s why you had so many good years together! Likely deep down your husband knows this too… even while he attempts to stuff the feelings he had (and still has) for you, and continues on his search for whatever it is.

I’m getting tired of this sitch, you are so right about it. I just don’t know what I can do, except to file for D.

I consider filing for D to be an absolute last resort, best to be avoided if you have any hope of rebuilding the relationship. Does your husband have a clue on where you stand? It doesn’t sound like he does.

I’ve been AWOL from the boards for a while, so I’m not %100 up to speed on your sitch, but I’m guessing you’ve been following the “keep up the PMA”, “No Relationship Talks” when interacting with him. And it’s no longer working for you… you want, need, and deserve more.

I did something different a few days ago. Well, it just came out, I didn’t really plan for that. I sent H the updated company file back, and I was not exactly plain business. I was a bit of playful in my e-mail, just a little. Said “Cheers” at the end instead of “Thanks”. Sooooo… Dead silence… I guess it didn’t go well… Oh well… Who cares... The dude wanted to be friends, and now he is intimidated with a cheerful response. Or, not intimidated… I don’t know…

If you are tiring of the status quo, you owe it to yourself to try something new.

Truth Darts? Reality talks? Ask for what you want? (keeping specific, attainable baby steps in mind) He might surprise you and step up a notch. How nice would that be?

I think it’s much better for us and the relationship if we speak up before we get to that Double Dog Done Divorce point. Bust On!