Roommates for the Next Two Months

[Fogg]

I still snoop at times also but there's another reason to avoid it. At some point in the future if you two ever try to reconcile all those details you have read will only make it harder for you to do the work needed.

We don't need to see those things, it only causes us pain. Snooping/getting intel can have its uses to protect yourself financially and adjust your DB strategy, but we often use it to try and gain some understanding over the situation.

We are curious at the chaos in their mind and want to understand it. I think we all want to understand, I've done tons of leaps down the rabbit hole to try myself. I still believe it can be useful to some degree, but it wrecks your mind in the process. Its very destructive to us to read those things(even if you don't think so right now) and in the long run it does more damage than good.