Wonka, that post help me out. I have been having a hard time just letting my W do her thing. I really just want to ask to put things on hold and let's let the dust settle, but like you said she will just dig her heels in even deeper.

I'm still amazed she is filed for D only 4 months after I found out about A.

NDY, good luck on this follow up convo with W. I'm not the perfect example but it sounds like patience is the key.

Me: 32 Her: 29
M: 5 T: 11
D2
ILYBINILWY: Jan 15
BD: 2/13/15 (I found out, she didn't tell me)
W filed for D after I confronted OM 5-27-15
Papers served 6-3-15
Temporary Order 7-15-15
W Moved out 7-17-15