In the early stages of MLC, many of the MLCers are full of rage. They are angry at themselves, their lives, what they've missed out on (or so they think), the spouse and the marriage. The anger has been pent up for many, many years and when the switch is flipped, the volcano erupts and they spew for a long time. Heck, he could have been angry that the stars weren't aligned in the sky. They are very, very emotional during the crisis and they can't control those emotions for a long time to come.
If you have not read some of the postings over on the MLC Forum, I suggest you do so...that way you have a better idea of what takes place for many of them. The best thing to do is just leave him be and do not fuel his fire. When he's like that, the best thing to do is give him his space to settle down. BTW, they are very selfish, inconsiderate and it's all about them now. No one else matters but themselves.
If he announces he's filing for divorce, you may want to say "I'm sorry you feel that it is necessary, it's not what I want, but I will not stand in your way". If you were to argue w/him, he will be that more determined to follow thru.
I'm sorry he's in the spewing, anger stage. The best thing to do is get out of his way and allow him to fight in the ring w/himself.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
