Thanks Wonka! Always good to get affirmation from you.
Of course, after I posted that, she came out to where I was sitting and said, "I do know what love is. My love for you was pure. I'm sorry I don't feel that way anymore. It just got to be too much."
I couldn't help but roll my eyes and reiterate that love isn't a feeling, it's something you do, it's a commitment you honor. We ended up raising our voices - hers about, again, my not getting a job - mine about her not ever talking to me about anything, as if I'm a mind reader.
"Really? All I had to do was quit working on our business and get a job, and you wouldn't have left me???"
"Yes."
Before she left, I said I hated all this fighting, and we need to stop. She kind of melted, hugged me, said she hated it too. I said I hated it more, because I really love her, took my vows seriously, and would love her all my life. She said, "Don't be so self-sacrificial about it."
All I could say was, "But love IS self-sacrificial, don't you get it?"
She got in the car. She doesn't.
Me: 46 Her: 41 M: 5.5 yrs / S: 20, 18 3/26 W and I meet OW BD: 5/2/2015, she takes off ring W goes to stay with OW 6/26 NC: 9/5 Both moved out: 10/16 I take off my ring and feel... healed: 10/19