Feelings are one thing, having them control your actions or attitude is quite another. I don't believe DB detaching means you stop feeling anything for her. You can't just turn off love as if it were a faucet. It is more of an attitude of not allowing your feelings for her control you or dictate your life. Recognize the feeling, but make your decision based on something else.
If I may offer a suggestion, just to experiment, if nothing else. Know that you will probably have things to pop up and threaten to trigger your emotions. What can you do whenever it happens? You know yourself, so what can you do when you have triggers that threaten to take over your actions?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
