So for those of you that have helped me so far I want to say thank you. I am learning. I have continued to repeat the same mistakes. It's amazing how your emotions can overcome your logical mind. I KNOW what I need to do. On some occasions I just ignore logic and react emotionally. It always turns out badly.
I realize that snooping is wrong. However I have to confess that this morning I followed up on my W's certainty that a piece of evidence I confronted her with was misleading, and that she was innocent of what I thought had happened. I looked deeper. Guess what I found? She was right. I was wrong. I accused her for no good reason. I thought I knew, but I didn't.
This is a valuable lesson. Just because you think you know, you may not know everything. Now I have started a new argument, accused, been proven wrong, & pushed her further away. I'll have to apologize to my wife (who still has an active Ashley Madison profile) foe falsely accusing her in this case.
Once that is done, it's back to working on me, working on detaching, and focusing on what I can control (myself).
What are some things that you guys do to pass idle time and get your mind off your WW spouse?
I find myself wanting to go to bed earlier because she goes in her room alone and I know she is in there chatting. I figure I won't stress over it if I am unconscious.
