Wow....who in the heck was the person that just left?!? The entire time we met was for her to see our son and discuss our next steps. What it turned into was 20 mins with S and a little discussion about what to do next as 'she's in no hurry to file' the majority of the time was her getting more stuff to take with her. So it appears the only reason for the visit was to get more stuff, and very little time to see our S....she's really changed!!! Her words may have been kind but her actions said something completely different....anyway the lil guy is still with me and it's bedtime. I'll post more later after I process what she said.
Forgot to mention that she wasn't expecting my demeanor at all....she actually said "you're not suppose to be nice and agreeing with me, you're suppose to be angry, mad or sad,,". How's that for a 180!
"The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy." -MLK Jr.
Forgot to mention that she wasn't expecting my demeanor at all....she actually said "you're not suppose to be nice and agreeing with me, you're suppose to be angry, mad or sad"...
I hope you ignored this... its baiting/testing. Giving too emotion in this would play to her ego.
Me: 45 W43 S7, Foster S9 (Planning to adopt post divorce) D mentioned Feb 2015, Wife served 3/24/2015. She moved out 4/15/2015.
Having a really emotional day today, up one minute down the next. I thank God that my S is here to keep me company I don't know if I could make it through these times if he wasn't around. For all the Dad's out there Happy Fathers Day give your kids an extra long hug today if you get the chance.
Having a really emotional day today, up one minute down the next. I thank God that my S is here to keep me company I don't know if I could make it through these times if he wasn't around. For all the Dad's out there Happy Fathers Day give your kids an extra long hug today if you get the chance.
It's ok to be emotional. You're only a couple weeks into this. There's a lot of grieving to be done still. Just try to act as if during the day with your S or family or friends. Once you're alone, cry your eyes out if you want. Or you can post here. Or you can scream. Or whatever.
Wishing you strength and peace on this Fathers Day.
I have this weird feeling inside of me that I can't quite put a finger and I've never felt before. It's like I need to cry but cannot force myself to do so?
I'm in a fog most of the time and thoughts race through my head from one emotion of 'she'll get through this on her own and come back' to 'she left us and no longer wants a family you are on your own'.
I know I need to prepare for the worst and move on like I don't need her but where do you find the strength each day to face this? The only people that know are my family so far, everyone at work is expecting the same person but it is very hard to pretend.
The one thing that did happen over the weekend was her parents reached out to me via email and offered to talk without taking sides or any judgement. They live out of state and from the tone of their email they are wondering what is going on with their daughter (at least from my perspective). I answered them and said thank you for the offer and I will give them a call later this week.
