I've been composing an answer for you Cindy but will post it on your new thread. Thanks for the compliment PM. Cindy did you know I used a PM quote as my signature for years.

"Whenever I get SAD I stop being sad and start being AWESOME" -- PatientMan

You are in my thoughts today when your girls meet the OW. Hang in there. You can do this!

Linda

Me 65, Ex 64
M 38 y
2 adult S, 4 G-Kids
MLC 11/07
BD 12/09
D 3/14
Dating nice guy 7/14
Engaged to nice guy 12/17