Today was a big setback. She is pretty pissed. I also have a hard time with having been the one who was cheated on, and SHE is angry at me. It's like bizarro world.
I believe that's a common reaction/tactic by a WW, place blame back on the LBS to keep them off what they are doing. If she had nothing to hide she wouldn't mind you checking things. If she had remorse for what shes done she would do anything to show you she was willing to fix it.
Shes holding onto that WW behavior because in her heart that's the only thing that will make her happy and she will do anything to get it.
I think it was discussed in "For Newcomer LBH with a Wayward Wife by sandi2" thread listed by Cadet at the beginning of your thread. If you haven't read it yet now might be a good time.
Accept what is, let go of what was, and have faith in what will be
