My W has even said when my D2 starts asking questions we should sit down and decide what we are going to tell her. I told her I was going to tell her I didn't want this and I did everything I could. I'm not going to lie for you. Now, I know I just can't trash my W in front of my D2 but she wants it to be the stereotypical "oh we just grew apart" FALSE, I will NOT say that.
I wish you would have answered your W by saying, "I plan to always be truthful with our daughter". Let W fret about that one!
The WW doesn't want their kids knowing the real truth behind the divorce. Funny how she wants all the details about what you will do when you have D2 now (which is simply her wanting to stay in control), and even tries to make you believe she has that right just b/c she's the mother. Well sit back and watch, b/c when time comes to tell her daughter why her parents divorced, then she want to give very vague answers. Yes, she plays that card of saying you need to do what's best for D2 (which is another language for doing whatever your WW wants).........but she won't think her own daughter deserves to know the true reason behind the divorce. Crazy, huh?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
