Talked to some friends last night and my W had talked to this friend and my W told her she thinks if she decides to not get a D she will think I will boast like I "won." That thought process is beyond me.

Is it worth talking to my W and saying there are no winners if we get a D, if we try and make it work WE ALL WIN. Also I was thinking about suggesting a legal separation, she's filed for D but I'm curious if it would be worth talking to her about going the legal separation route before we just finalize the D process

Thoughts?

Me: 32 Her: 29
M: 5 T: 11
D2
ILYBINILWY: Jan 15
BD: 2/13/15 (I found out, she didn't tell me)
W filed for D after I confronted OM 5-27-15
Papers served 6-3-15
Temporary Order 7-15-15
W Moved out 7-17-15