Just a couple of thoughts from me. I think Wonka and V's suggestions are great. STFU and let your W talk. REally listen. Don't push, let her move at her pace. Just see it as a first touch base.
I agree about the sobriety - that comes tops..
Maybe have a few 'safe' - how are things going Qs if you need to lighten the tone.
Try not to react or defend - listen and validate. Set yourself a time limit on the convo. Absolute max an hour I would say & suggest you speak further another time. Maybe even half an hour is best this time? IDK.
Good luck anyway xx
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