Trying to get a hold of the attorney. texts. calls. UGH!!
I finally got a text from her to say that she has tried to contact his atty and would call me later today. Then this afternoon I get a notification that a deposit was made to one of our joint chk accts. It was a small amount. So I text H and asked why such a small amt to which he said it was to pay his CC bill.
Then I reiterated the need for money to be put back into the main acct since there are some bills getting paid automatically. That did it- UGH!
H sent this 6 part text that he was going to change all payments to mail statements so he can control ALL the finances. He also said that he's been left without money (not true) when he needs it for gas or food for our children (lie)so that now he wants all bills due dates payments etc. H says he will ensure that there will be plenty of money for me and our sons. He also said that he wants to take over the finances to relieve me of my stress and responsibility.
I found out he opened two new credit accts since last Nov. It shows that he's been paying his bills on time but I question how? Where did he get the money to pay these bills cuz they weren't paid from the main acct. Hmm?!
His actions and lack of consideration are the stressors. I seriously wonder why he wants all this info now since I have been running the household and never limited or prohibited him to access to our money. I also never drained the accts. He has used the debit card for our children and himself and lately his gf. So what's to say he will actually pay my mortgage, car insurance, groceries, electric bill. He could put my finances in worse shape.
LORD I NEED A WELL PAYING JOB! Help me to be healed so that I am able to work and have good insurance to help me.
I just want this D over with. I know the alimony/maintenance and child support will be very little but I need peace. I need him off of me. So far, h has controlled this whole situation and I have remained quiet to an extent cuz I really don't need his stress.
It's almost as each of our MLC stories boggle the mind. The MLC'er makes no sense. They're not thinking.
I pray each day for the Lord to not only protect and heal me and my family but also for my H, OW, MIL, FIL, SIL. My the Lord touch their minds, hearts and lips with a refining fire. That the Lord speak to them so that they will speak and show mercy towards me and my children.
My fellow forum members - I pray for y'all too. Y'all continue to amaze me.
