Someone please help me with a plan of action!

[rustbkt]

So it's been quite awhile since I last posted and not much has changed. My W and I still live under the same roof, just like room mates. She is working in the afternoons and i'm on day's so we don't see each other much except on weekends. Through the week our communication is very limited and I text her only when I absolutely have to. On the weekends when I do see her we get along pretty well most of the time. Our weekends our pretty much like clockwork we just do the cooking, cleaning and visit our grown kids and we even go to curch together. We are now 9 months post BD and she has not changed her mind about selling the house in March and separating. I stopped begging and pleading with her about 6 months ago after reading the DR book and trying my best to GAL. Most of the time I do things on my own but occasionally she will join me for a bike ride or go for a walk together. I think of her now as Casper the friendly ghost. I can see her and I can talk with her but I can't touch her. Most of the time she is not as friendly as Casper because I still believe she is going through a MLC and I get most of the blame around here for her being unhappy. Since I have started to lay low and let her carry on with her life she does seem a little happier. Detaching is getting easier as the days go by because I don't see her much but now i'm starting to get tired of living like this and don't know how much longer I can keep this up. I don't know if I can do another 9 months of living like this in the same house but apart, day after day, day after day, this is so hard. Two weeks from now is our 30th anniversary and I don't know if I should buy her something, take her out to dinner or just do nothing. Is doing something nice for her or with her on our anniversary pursuing her? I think I should just do nothing as hard as that will be but I will take any suggestions. please help me figure this out.


Casper your a friendly ghost but I want the real you to come back.