Teach there's a whole "Lessons from Successful DB'ers" or something like that section on the main page of the forum. It helps to read just to get some perspective.
You've got people on there with loooooong situations. It's also good to ease your fears.
I was convinced that while I was out of the country my W was having the time of her life, maybe dating, but loving life without me. I just found out from a close friend of hers that she was miserable the entire time and isn't seeing anyone but family. All of my fears for nothing.
Keep working on yourself, it will pay off either way.
Big hug, PP
M 39 W 36 T5 M3 BD - 1/15 Separated - Same Day Served 9/15 D finalized 6/17