You sound good and I exhort anyone here to read your post as it represents the healthy journey a DB'er goes on.
With regards to your questions, no one can answer them, save you. You still have tools to use, but it does appear you are unwilling to risk your current relationship in order to have the possibility at a better one. The caveat being, "in good times and in bad", and I understand that.
Communicate with her. Love her, as my definition goes, "love is the will to execute selflessly for the benefit of others." Think less about what YOU are getting out of the relationship, and focus on what you can give. Over time, her true self will manifest and you will have a more informed decision to make.
By the way, good to see you!
-PM
M:12y - BD:12/11 - D:6/13 - 4Ds
"The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy." -MLK Jr.
