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I hope you enjoy your time with your daughters. I'm sure you'll find something fun to do with them.

I think you are being way too hard on yourself about not getting your W a Mother's Day gift. You just joined this forum recently, correct? When I asked the group if I should get my W a Mother's Day gift (she walked out on me 8 months ago) everyone said "No."

It's the same for any special occasion for a wayward spouse. No gifts. They might appreciate it, but most likely will view it as an attempt to try to win them back. Also, by not buying a gift, it's a little reminder of some of the things that she's giving up.

Make any sense?

Hang in there please!

Bob

The Mother's Day thing was before all this started. The last example of old me missing out on a chance to show love and appreciation.

What people are saying is that by Mothers Day, it probably didn't matter much. Yeah, if you got her something nice, maybe BD would have been a week later, or a month later, but the end result was probably going to be the same.

What's fone is done and there's mo point beating yourself up about it.

I just wanted to give voice to it. I think people have a tendency to look at this as a situation where I was minding my own business and my W "did this" to me. I just want to establish that I share blame for the state of my marriage up to the point where she chose to cheat.