I need advice quick...please help

[PatientMan]

Thank you patientman. I am interested in learning more.

Noted. I will put some things together for you - please be patient with me.

I feel like last night all the faith I had in repairing this was stripped away.

This is very typical, thinking you are walking a tightrope and any deviation from perfection sends you careening to the death of a relationship. It is your mind playing tricks on you. The overall body of work is what matters. Consistent change over time is what convinces the WAS to reconsider. Consistent change over time is what changes you into the best version of you that you can be - a woman only a fool would leave.

I'll say it again because it is important: If you make a mistake, learn from that mistake, and move forward. Don't dwell on it or beat yourself up, just learn and move forward. This is very important - do you understand?

Everyone tells me to wake up he is using you until he gets his feet under him and then he will divorce you.

Maybe, but you must do what you feel is right. Stand firm in your convictions, just be sure it is your convictions you are standing in.

I read about good people on here trying their best for themselves but still desperately in love with their spouse.

Not many successful stories of people improving their own lives and then reconciling.

So what? The odds are against you and it might be difficult. Is that going to make you quit?

-PM