Just got off of the phone with my W's cousin, a male who she was close with. He had no idea five months into this that we had separated, so weird since I thought they spoke regularly.
I'm having to deflect his texts now of "call her, fight for it, you're her husband, you have to lead like a man, that's what she always wanted."
At my DB coach's suggestion I did reach out to her via email yesterday about us meeting with a MC and having me go through the 9th step of "making amends with those we have harmed by our addictions". She hasn't returned my email but I know she works a 14 hour day today so I had no expectation of it.
I think I'll stick to DB principles and stay NC until I hear back.
M 39 W 36 T5 M3 BD - 1/15 Separated - Same Day Served 9/15 D finalized 6/17
