I've read that on their own, WAS may come back say 10% of the time. By doing the DB process, if may increase to around 35%. That means that maybe 2 out of 3 marriages will STILL fail even by going through this work.
That's why the focus just CANT be on reconciling. Because you can't control that. All you can control is YOU. And you know what? If you give in to this process, you will emerge out the other side happy, healthy, and a [censored] awesome version of yourself ready to have your next, better relationship.
So if your only goal is R, you may find yourself stuck or discouraged. To that, I say start over with a beginners mind and really consider your ULTIMATE GOAL.
