I am breathing really hard!! I can't believe I haven't even reacted this is a huge step for me codependent breaking 101 normally I would have responded while married with Don't you want to spend time with us or just a "really"? and after we separated I would have asked him who he was or what he was really doing or if he was cheating.
This is hard but I am telling myself it is his right and it doesn't mean he is going off to cheat on me and if it does then that is his choice and he will have to live with it and I can't control it. I am a good person no matter what he chooses to do.
Now I have to let it go and just look at it as him going and having his fun and it is no reflection on me.
This is what I am learning in the book but it is hard to do thank goodness I can vent here get it out and move on. Thanks to all the great advice and help.
